To Talk or Not To Talk…
The other day my husband stopped to chat with a neighbor about a truck sitting in the driveway. While talking with the husband, his wife walked up and stood by. He attempted to engage her in the conversation as well, by asking her a few questions about where she was from, etc. When my beloved got back into our van, he commented, “It’s a strange thing. They seem to be nice folks, but I couldn’t figure out the wife. It’s almost like she didn’t want to talk.”
That got me thinking about how we as wives can tear down our husbands. Actually, there are two ways, and both are the ditches on either side of the road.
We can dominate our husbands by being either outwardly opinionated, or by being subtly and quietly opinionated. Both are extremes and show our hearts. Now, I don’t know if that’s what the neighbor lady was doing or not, but I do know that a woman often expresses her opinion one way or another.
You know how it is. Your husband is talking with someone. Maybe they are talking about vehicles, and your hubby, out of the blue, says that he’d like to buy a new car. “Well, that’s news to me,” you think. “Why didn’t we talk about this before these guys started talking about it?? I sure hope he’s not going to make some wild decision without consulting me first!”
You sit in stewing silence, lips pursed, knowing that if you said anything, it would not be nice. Ask me how I know? I’ve been there. OR, you could jump in with something like, “Now wait a minute! Are you really thinking of buying a new car?” Suddenly at least four eyes turn to you as though you were an alien that just landed from another planet. It’s a sure conversation-stopper! Ask me how I know? I’ve done it!
Looking back, I can see I was not trusting the Lord enough to just let Him deal in the situation. And really, that’s what it boils down to: trust in God. Sarah obeyed Abraham, trusting in who? In Abraham? I don’t think so. Trusting in God!
Let’s ask the Lord to help us trust more in him, and not tear down our husbands.
