The Raubs on the Road

January 22, 2009

The Great Excuses Contest!

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Well, it’s back to the grindstone for The Princess-turned Queen. My Beloved is back to his normal routine of studying, Bible Study on Post, and work in the evenings, and I am back to being teacher-chef-laundress-manager, etc. To some, it may seem a boring life, but to me, it’s never a dull moment!

Lately I’ve been thinking about a Bible lesson that maybe I will teach sometime, but probably not. In either case, I will share it with you!

We all have excuses for not doing what we know we are supposed to do, and I suppose Christians can be the most creative when it comes to excuses. Why, we could almost have an Excuses Contest, and see who has the best (or worst) excuse!

As a missionary’s wife, I’ve heard things like, “We can’t support you because we already support someone else going to that field,” or, “We can’t support you because you’re not on the field yet.” Here’s my all-time favorite: “We dropped your support because you are ON the field!” How’s that for pulling the rug out from under your feet?

Anyway, excuses can easily become a way of life. “I can’t..” is easier to say than to whole heartedly serve the Lord. “I’m just not….(fill in the blank: strong enough, smart enough, good-looking enough, organized enough, patient enough, etc.)” keeps us from giving of ourselves for God. And sometimes an “I won’t…” can push the Lord away if He wants us to do something for Him. Well, here’s the lesson in a nutshell:

“I CAN’T” didn’t work for Sarah. God can and God DID! She thought she was too old to have childrenv(and she WAS!) but God is able to do mighty things when we are willing to trust Him and step out in faith. And God can do the same for you!

“I’M NOT” didn’t work for Moses. Moses said, “I’m not eloquent, send someone else.” But God is able to make the dumb speak and the blind to see! God used Moses despite his lack (or was it because of his lack?? And God gets the glory!).

But the first prize of the Excuses Contest would have to be Jonah! Fortunately for the millions in Nineveh,

“I WON’T” didn’t work for Jonah. God simply wouldn’t take NO for an answer! Personally, I believe God saw the great need at Nineveh, and loved the people so much, that He made sure the job got done. I don’t think, though, that Jonah really enjoyed his watery ride. For me, I’d rather learn from someone else’s mistakes than go around making my own all over again!

Many of us know exactly what God wants us to do or to be, but we struggle with our own insufficiencies. Rest assured that God always gives the strength and power to do His Will. And if we do the natural, God will do the supernatural.

Let’s step forward, trusting in God’s promises, and rely on Him to help us! Let’s have a No More Excuses Contest!

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January 16, 2009

We’re Back!

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STILL MARRIED 25 years and going strong!

Our Honeymoon Car: STILL MARRIED 25 years and going strong!

Yes, folks, I am back, but, I must admit, I am terribly spoiled. My Beloved took such good care of me, opening the door for me all the time, keeping me well supplied with good food, and letting me get lots of rest. I’m having a bit of trouble readjusting from being Princess to being Queen!

We had a GREAT time! On Friday, went to the beach at Corpus Christi, collecting shells and watching the different kinds of wildlife. Then on Saturday, we toured the USS Lexington. The Floating Museum was very well done, and we enjoyed exploring all by ourselves. Sunday found us at church, of course, but we also added a game of bowling! Amazingly enough, we both got the same score: 106!

We are very thankful for our safety, as well as the safety of the children back home. I hear nothing but rave reviews from all quarters as to how well Sharon took care of the house and the little ones. It’s quite a job for me, let alone for a 14-year old! I was afraid that maybe I would find the kids duck-taped to the wall or something, but they were happy, well, fed, and clean when I got home! Hat’s off to Sharon, for a job well done!

January 7, 2009

Our 25th Wedding Anniversary

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Together

Together

Yes, folks, it’s true. Twenty five years ago today, My Beloved and I “tied the knot,” pledging ourselves to each other before the Lord and a bunch of people. For our Silver Anniversary, we have some big plans! Wanna hear what I’m gonna do?

First, since my hubby still has to work this evening, I’m going to take him to work and drop him off. Then, (don’t tell!) I’m planning on taking the car through a car wash, and then writing “STILL MARRIED, 25 YEARS!” all over it. I’m also going to the salon to have my hair done, and I may do some shopping… all without the kids, of course! That gives me time to get a nice card and a gift, and other goodies.

When he gets off work at 9:30, my, will he be surprised! Then the fun begins!

We are heading south (to an undisclosed location), and will be “away” till early next week, so if you don’t hear from me for awhile…you’ll know I’m “pleasantly occupied.”

I’ll be back…eventually!

January 3, 2009

A Fence or an Ambulance

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‘Twas a dangerous cliff, as they freely confessed,
Though to walk near its crest was so pleasant;
But over its terrible edge there had slipped
A duke and full many a peasant.
So the people said something would have to be done,
But their projects did not at all tally;
Some said, “Put a fence around the edge of the cliff,”
Some, “An ambulance down in the valley.”

But the cry for the ambulance carried the day,
For it spread through the neighboring city;
A fence may be useful or not, it is true,
But each heart became brimful of pity
For those who slipped over that dangerous cliff;
And the dwellers in highway and alley
Gave pounds or gave pence, not to put up a fence
But an ambulance down in the valley.

“For the cliff is all right, if you’re careful,” they said,
“And, if folks even slip and are dropping,
It isn’t the slipping that hurts them so much
As the shock down below when they’re stopping.”
So day after day, as these mishaps occurred,
Quick forth would those rescuers sally
To pick up the victims who fell off the cliff,
With their ambulance down in the valley.

Then an old sage remarked: “It’s a marvel to me
That people give far more attention
To repairing results than to stopping the cause,
When they’d much better aim at prevention.
Let us stop at its source all this mischief,” cried he,
“Come, neighbors and friends, let us rally;
If the cliff we will fence we might almost dispense
With the ambulance down in the valley.”…

Better guide well the young than reclaim them when old,
For the voice of true wisdom is calling,
“To rescue the fallen is good, but ‘tis best
To prevent other people from falling.”
Better close up the source of temptation and crime
Than deliver from dungeon or galley;
Better put a strong fence round the top of the cliff
Than an ambulance down in the valley.

Joseph Malins

December 16, 2008

Home for Christmas

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My daughter wrote this wonderful poem the other day. Let’s not forget the ones who are unable to be home with their loved ones for Christmas.

From Russia’s mountains to Iran,
Alaska, Georgia, Afghanistan.
Soldier’s wives and Army men
Have hope to be together again.

A little girl with curly hair
Dimpled cheek and skin so fair
“Daddy, please – you are so far,
Come home for Christmas – missed you are.”

Tears trickle down a woman’s face
Her hair disheveled – out of place
Crying softly, whispers low
“Come home, my dear – I miss you so.”

A troubled man sits in his tent,
At home in place his thoughts are meant.
His wife – his child – oh, to be near!
For Christmas time to spread the cheer.

This Christmas we must not forget
Of those whose Christmas they’ll regret
That together they could not be
With family gathered ‘round the tree.

For soldier standing in harm’s way
For wives and children we must pray
God keep them safe, for Christmas may
They be together – glad, glad day.

– By Sharon R.

December 2008

December 9, 2008

Anger is Danger with a Capital D

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Continuing our series on Resolving Conflict, we delve into the role of anger.  With our sinful nature, we all have the red-headed monster inside of us!

 

Being the youngest of five children, I must have been somewhat spoiled, because until I got saved, I had a red-hot temper.  Ask my older brother Ric.  He’ll tell you about the time I had had enough of his teasing and leveled him, and then gave him a kick while he was down just for good measure!  Or ask my older sister Jen, and she’ll tell you about the time we got into a yelling battle in the produce aisle in the grocery store.  Or you could just ask my oldest brother Chip, who was big enough to keep me at arm’s length when I got mad.  Yes, I sure did have a bad temper, especially before I got saved.

 

I have always had difficulties when things did not go my way.  Even to this day, I have trouble not slamming the door to the freezer shut when things keep trying to jump out of it!  I have found, however, that very often when I would lose my temper, I was the one to get hurt.

 

One day when I was young, I was doing something in the laundry room down in the basement.  Now, to this day I have no idea what I was doing, but something did not work out right, and I got angry.  Very angry!  And I did what I always did when I got angry: I pounded something!  In this case, it happened to be the ironing board.  Well, I didn’t know that my mother had parked a sewing needle about a half inch into the ironing board. 

 

Wham!  I slammed my fist down on the ironing board and instantly felt the needle pushing through my skin.  Quickly looking at the edge of my hand, I saw what was still sticking out of my hand: about a half inch of the pointy part of the needle.  The eye of the needle had gone about an inch and a quarter deep into my hand, across two of my hand bones. 

 

Was I still angry?  You can be sure I was!  But now I felt stupid at the same time, and my feelings of stupidity far outweighed my anger.  Head down, I took my pierced hand to my Dad, who was sitting in his easy chair, and asked him if he could pull it out for me.  You should have seen the look on his face when he saw what I had done!

 

It was a lesson I will never forget: To be quickly angered is to be quickly hurt.

 

When I get angry at one of my children, though I may hurt them, it always comes back to bite me!  The child may not trust me as much, or may become withdrawn.  Of course, that makes it much harder for me.  Definitely, it is worse to cause one of the children to have a problem, but I need to understand that it also causes me more problems.

 

If I become easily irritated at the habits of others, I will find myself being the one getting hurt.  Let me give you an example.  An older gentleman had a habit of emptying the dishwasher in a very noisy way: clattering the contents of the silverware drawer all over the counter!  And every time he did that, his wife jumped about two feet!   (Just in case you didn’t know, that’s not very healthy when you’re in your seventies!)  Well, this dear woman was very angry at her husband, but do you know what?  It never seemed to bother him at all.  And she became a very irritable, unhappy person.  To be quickly angered is to be quickly hurt. 

On the other hand, a merry heart hath a continual feast. 

 

Yesterday at a church fellowship, one of my older children accidentally sat in her plate of food!  It could have been disastrous, except that she had to laugh about it!  She could have gotten angry – very angry – but instead she laughed it off.  She not only had a good laugh, but also got a lot of sympathy from her friends, something that would never happen if she had gotten angry.  And she is happier as a result.

 

Oh how good it would be for us to remember that anger is Danger with a capital “D” !

December 3, 2008

We Interrupt Our Regularly Scheduled Programming…

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Kathy's First Deer

Kathy

To Bring you this special news bulletin:  Kathryn Siegwart, the famous eldest daughter of the Mr. and Mrs. Raub, got her first deer while hunting in the woods of the Upper Penninsula of Michigan on Sunday afternoon. 

Using her very own deer rifle, Kathryn shot the 4-point buck at dusk on Sunday afternoon after the buck followed a doe out into a clearing.  “He walked a little ways and then collapsed,” she said in a telephone interview yesterday.  “When I got closer to him, I realized that he wasn’t quite dead, so I had to shoot him a few more times.”  Her husband, Matthew, field-dressed the buck and took him to the butcher for processing.

Matthew, an accomplished hunter himself, already had his buck this year, as well as two does. 

“That gives us a freezer full!” Kathryn exclaimed.  “That will come in handy since Matt is laid off for the winter.”

A hearty congratulations goes to Kathryn for getting her first deer!

November 26, 2008

The Main Cause of Conflict

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Happy Thanksgiving to everyone!  I hope you are all enjoying the company of family and friends, and seeking to give the Lord His due praise for His Goodness to us all. 

 

Now we’re going to look at some of the causes of conflict. After all, why do we end up in such scrapes, anyway?!

 

I had a perfect example just a few minutes ago.  It wasn’t long after I put my little ones to bed that one of them fell asleep.  Usually that’s good, but this time, the little guy fell asleep on his sister’s side of the bed!  This became a problem very quickly. 

 

Scripturally speaking there is one, and only one, reason for conflict in our lives.  The answer to the “why” question lies in Proverbs 13:10:

 

      Pro 13:10

“Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.”

 

Conflict comes in our lives because someone, either we or others, insist on their own rights.  In another Scripture, James puts it to us this way:

 

Jas 4:1-3

(1)  From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?

e(2)  Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.

(3)  Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.

 

In the case of the brother who fell asleep on his sister’s side of the bed, one party felt wronged by the other.  One felt that the other had more room than her, and she should not have to put up with his hand on her side of the bed.  It’s a pride issue of “I want things my way, and if it’s not my way, it’s a problem!”

 

As Americans, we are world-renowned for demanding our rights.  Why, we even drafted a Bill of Rights and tacked it on to our Constitution!  Civil rights are vitally important, but to insist on our own personal rights is detrimental to relationships.

 

Little children, for example, feel it is their right to have a certain toy, whether or not it is currently in their possession.   Of course, then you end up with the nursery brawl!  How about the children in Walmart, who think they have every right to have the candy in the checkout.

 

Young people think it is their right to be treated like an adult, though they do not have the responsibility of an adult.  They get very upset if they think they aren’t being treated like they think they should be! 

 

And, lest you think I’m being too rough on the young people, often we adults carry the same thing over into our lives.  We feel that we should be treated a certain way, so when we are not treated like we think we should be, we get angry!  How about the guy who pulls out in front of us and then slows down?  What about when the pastor picks someone else to play the piano in church instead of us or our daughter? 

 

Simply speaking, we want things our way!

 

Next time, Lord Willing, we’ll get into some of the Cures for Conflict! 

November 12, 2008

Facing the Inevitable

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This Friday night I will be teaching a devotional for a ladies’ Meeting in my church on Conflict Resolution.  Some of the items I will be dealing with are so vital to our Christian growth, I decided to share them with you!

They say there are only two things that are certain in life: death and taxes.  Well, I think I can add a third thing to that: conflict!  It seems as natural as sucking on a pacifier to steal toys from another tot, or fight over a chair with another child.  It is even natural to have vengeful feelings over the “loss” of a friend to another person. 

The Bible says that “Man is born unto trouble, as the sparks fly upward.” (Job 5:7)  It’s as inevitable as gravity!  Jesus said, “…it must needs be that offenses come…” (Matthew 18:7)  It is on its way, one way or another, so we’d better prepare for it!

Setting the Stage

There are so many different reasons conflict can enter our lives.  First, there are personality differences.  Some folks are happy-go-lucky and carefree, while others are serious and pragmatic.  Some folks like southern style preaching, while others prefer a calm sermon delivery.  Some folks are outgoing and confident, while still others are timid and shy.  All these differences in themselves can combine to create conflict.

Then there are procedure differences.  These are differences in family rules, habits, and operations.  Even within a family there can be different habit.  My husband and I, for example, are fairly different in our habits and preferences.  I am a morning person, while he is an evening person.  I wake up in the morning bright and cheerful, ready to take on the day.  When he gets up, he feels like he’s been hit by a small car!  Sometime around 10:00 at night, however, the tide is turned, and I begin to feel like an accident victem, while he is busily enjoying some productivity!

On a larger scale, the differences between families can be a cause for conflict.  As a church planter, I remember one family which had a very different set of rules for their children.  It was not unusual to have their little girl come up to one of our little children and literally push them to the ground, while the parents stood idly by!  And while their girl climbed onthe piano, the parents claimed that if we trusted God with the piano, everything would be ok!  Imagine the possibilities for conflict in that church!

Physical difficulties also provide excellent breeding ground for conflict.  Sometimes sickness, tiredness, headaches, infirmities, and especially my old stand-by excuse: Hormones!  In your typical ladies’ meeting, there is every possible combination of hormone difficulties available.  This Friday, when the ladies get together, there will be little girls, teenage girls, pregnant ladies, nursing moms, pre- and post- monopausal women, and even some from the PMS group will be represented!

But wait!  We’re not done yet!  Let’s add to this mix the inevitable Stress of Life!  We get up in the morning, and as soon as our feet hit the floor, we are off and running.  Many days, we don’t stop until we pull our feet back up into our beds again at night!  It’s a busy world we live in, an insanely busy world.  As an eighty-one year old man, my father tells me that he is busier now than he has ever been in his life!  “Dad,” I reply, laughing, “Don’t tell me that!  If it’s that way for you, and you only had five kids, then it is hopeless for me!”  He laughs and agrees, “You’re right, Lis!  You’d better get something done while you still have time!”

Mental, emotional, and physical stress takes its toll on our lives.  When our nerves get frayed, we are prime candidates for conflict.

Toting her baby on one hip while pulling her toddler along behind her, the busy mother made her way to her typical church pew, only to find it already occupied!  The dear elderly woman in the pew could not have known the horrible day the young mother had just endured, and what pains she had to take to get to church.  But it was the last straw of the day.  The younger lady stormed out of the church, muttering how unloving these people were. 

Sometimes all it takes is one comment, one look, or one spill to put us over the edge and into a conflict.  Let us not be those who easily fall into an argument!

We will only be as effective a Christian to the degree that we learn to get along with others!

We will only be effective as Sunday School teachers to the degree that we learn to get along with our students.

We will only be effective wives to the degree that we learn to get along with our husbands.

We will only be effective mothers to the degree that we learn to get along with our children.

May we be effective in our lives and learn how to deal with conflict!

November 1, 2008

An Angel Turned Monster

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It has been a very busy week for me, with a Family Conference this week as well as the usual school, etc.  I have been having some very late night discussions with some of my children this week also, and so, I am tired!  Here is something that I wrote awhile back, but I don’t think I posted.  It’s a scary thing to be responsable for someone’s life!

 

One day, a loving mother gave birth to a son.  He was the sunshine of her life, the brightness of her days, and her reason for living.  She loved him, cared for him, met his needs, and sang to him.  He was a happy baby, thriving on the love and attention he received.

 

Mother catered to her little baby’s every whim.  When he cried, she was there instantly, trying to soothe, comfort, and care.  He relished her attention, and realized quickly that his cries brought her running. 

 

As he grew older, he cried for everything.  Sometimes he wanted his bottle, then he would throw it on the ground and cry for her to pick it up.  Other times he would cry because he was wet, but then screamed when she tried to change him.  He whined for food, ate some of it, and then threw the rest on the floor, demanding a different kind. 

 

After a time, he noticed Mother did not always come like usual, and that made him very angry.  If he didn’t get what he wanted when he wanted it, he began to pitch a violent fit.  Usually that was pretty effective in getting his way.   But irritation, temper, and screaming became the normal way of life.

 

As he approached school age, Mother tried home schooling, but it was completely without success since she couldn’t get him to sit down and study.  To her credit, however, she was not to give in very easily.  Year after year she went through the same headache.  Eventually she became worn to a frazzle, and finally deposited him in the local Christian school. 

 

He found himself behind in his schooling, and became angry, terribly angry.  His anger turned into disgust and bitterness, and he completely rejected his parents and their God.  Turning instead to his “friends,” he figured that since he doesn’t do well in school, he may as well have fun. 

 

He no longer attends church with his parents, and in fact despises anything to do with Christianity.

 

Now he is eighteen, and of course has one more year of school left.  When he gets out, however, he is already committed to join the Army, “guaranteed” to be assigned to the Rangers.  He is tired of all his parents’ attempts to make him listen, so he is joining the Army!

 

Friends, this is in a Christian home!  This is the home of full-time Christian servants!  This is not some isolated case, but it is happening all over America, in some of the best of our homes. 

 

Mothers, don’t be soft.  Our angels can easily turn to monsters, and if they do, it will be because we let it happen.

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